My heart was broken…

The love of my life had just told me that he wasn’t sure I was the gal for him.

I found myself asking, what did I do wrong?

Nothing.

I had done NOTHING wrong!!!!

All the work I had done over the past five years was to prep me for this exact moment. 

I had a choice….

Option A:

I could freak out, panic, be a victim, and indulge in the heartbreak,  which would inevitably lead to my self-worth going down the tubes along with my relationship

OR

Option B:

I could honor my emotions, THEN step into my power, get clear on what I was willing to do (and not do), love this man, love myself, surrender, and enjoy the freaking journey!

I went with Option B.

This was my TEST!

The universe was giving me a chance not only to love this man deeper than I ever had, but to love myself more than I ever had. I had a chance to enjoy my life regardless of my “results” (the result being an engagement).

When life gives us a test, we have the power to choose:

We can choose trust
We can choose to love
And most importantly, we can choose to have the time of our lives.

This is what I did. I let go of control, and I enjoyed the freaking ride!

Michael and I had the best summer we have ever had together:

We traveled.
We hiked.
We did yoga in the park.
We did yoga on paddle boards.
We took jeep rides on country roads.
We spent Friday’s at the pool.
We laughed.
We let go.
We lived.

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Come fall, Michael asked me to marry him.

The dream that you question might never happen can come together so quickly when you do whatever it takes to trust, love, and have fun. 

I’m telling you this for 2 reasons:

When you are crushed and heartbroken, it isn’t over. This is your test. You get to choose which road you take.
Have fun! Enjoy your life! It’s not your results or the destination that will make you happy, it’s YOU! You get to be happy when you let go, surrender and TRULY have fun with what you have now.

Then, and only then, are you truly ready for the result that you want.

Everything, good or bad, is happening FOR you.

I wouldn’t have been ready to marry Michael 10 months ago. The universe knew I needed this lesson of letting go, loving deeper, and stepping into a bigger level of self-love, inner power, and grace.

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The lesson:

Don’t let the ‘TEST’ break you!
Step into your power! Choose love and above all, enjoy the freaking ride!

The good news is, you don’t have to do it alone…. I got your back!

Love always,
Cole

Comments 4

  1. Dr. Erica Goodstone

    Cole,

    Love often tests us. Loving is not for the faint of heart. That is why it is essential to build a strong inner foundation, knowing and accepting yourself, loving yourself, and understanding more fully how the world works and what causes love to flourish. By just enjoying your time with him, without the pressure for him to marry you when he had his own doubts, helped him to realize that you were for real, that he could trust you and that you really did care about him – not just about getting married to someone who fit your criteria.

    Warmly,

    Dr. Erica

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